Why Is My Federal Withholding So Low

On the gestalt in my opinion (8 th delivery)

Well, in continue where we left off the previous delivery . Three chapters it, we have devoted to trying to learn a little more as work is @ s @ s neurotic in all of us and so "happily" keep us into oblivion. Always taking into account as we work, we try to turn us know and aware of our own / or neurotic @ from Gestalt Therapy.

If you have not read the previous installments ( 6 th and above 7 th ), you may be difficult to follow the thread of what I am writing today. If this topic interests you, you can check these deliveries: www.rhumb.cat .

We had seen the first two mechanisms neurotic introjection and projection . Two mechanisms gentlemen, I wonder if you could see ... the rest does not fall short. They are also very skilled and often achieve its purpose to perfection, remember, stay on not realize from yourself and therefore take the responsibility to protect you, the answer to you and to others for yourself @. Ultimately protect you grow and mature.

Let's see how the mechanism of the confluence . The definition I find in the SAR is: "... where they join other rivers and streams." And yes, we could say it is. Why when different types of water flow or merge or mix, is impossible to differentiate, they become one. When this occurs between two or more people are using to protect the junction. Now we will see how.

While in the womb of mother , and the first months after birth, we are all converging, are part of mom, feel what she feels, us what it is. not differentiate between us and the environment.

Later, realizing that we are independent people , and during our subsequent development we will deploy our preferences and tastes , our criteria and personality. is something healthy and necessary for growth. example would be adolescence, which say no to dad and mom, is part what it takes to create and believe their own personality and grow healthily.

The convergence becomes a problem when still present in adulthood. When I just do not distinguish the other me, I do not know what my criteria, which is fine me what the other does or does not do or say or not say. I am also confluent when even knowing what I want, I do not defend it , and continue to one or another. at all costs I avoid conflict and confrontation . I camaleonizo with the environment. I think the only way will be accepted and loved @ @. And so I perpetuated in the state of the baby, the child.
In our society, can become a person assessed positively confluent. A dominant personalities tend to be comfortable to them. They're fun if you have to be fun, are elegant if you have to be elegant, "stick" where they go, and above all, giving no problems or complain.

We return to forever, if you are confluent and you're good, nothing to object. But if something inside you move to rise, if you're uncomfortable @ your closet full of chameleons, discover your personality and show it can help to further develop that at some point it was interrupted.

continue with the penultimate the defense mechanism that I will write, known to many and many, the retroflexion.
The retroflexion is the unconscious decision to "return to me what I can do or say to the other or another. In most cases, what retroflectamos are negative feelings.

I can not show my anger towards the other? I get angry with me. I can not show my anger, my helplessness, my restlessness, my disagreement? I blame myself for not getting it done, for having wanted to be there, for, by, by ...

is like that called "boomerang effect", but without the like. Why the problem is that the strong energy (which is usually remember a negative feeling) which originally comes from within outward direction, then returns with the same force and impact and remains in me equally.

From Gestalt look as forms of somatization retroflexion.

According Peñarrubia Paco, are treated organ damage inflicted upon us instead of responding to the environment: I can get depressed or have an ulcer instead of facing who I systematically harms, for example.
Finally, write briefly about the last mechanisms I've decided to show you, deflection, also formerly known as desensitization.

Deflection is what we call (in the vernacular and with permission), "shirking." I think this is well understood. For example:

That I do not feel like getting into a dialogue that I offer, and now I feel lazy @ to serve you? Then you prop a joke, an ironic comment, or I will wonder for a spin on the conversation. Anything to not establish intimate contact, and stay on the superficial.
is like playing a tennis match and rather than return the ball with the racket, devote myself to run around the track trying to make any opponent's ball to touch me. dodging.
I will do my best not to feel, that's the premise of the deflection.
This mechanism leads to disconnected of others and the environment, not be empathetic and give us no relationships in depth.

Personally, I think live in a society that suffers deflection. In some ways it is as if we were being deaf all your training to divert attention.

multitude of professions and activities also need the deflection, the feeling not to go ahead. How else could we be destroying the planet necesitamos para vivir?

En fin. Hasta aquí este paseo por los mecanismos de defensa según la Gestalt, a mi entender claro está. Espero que os hayan servido a tod@s para algo más que para coleccionar teoría. Espero que os hayan ayudado, aunque sea muy poquito, a intentar defenderos de la conciencia un poco menos. Aunque humano es defenderse, y legítimo también.

Un abrazo y hasta la próxima entrega, en la que os escribiré sobre "la Terapia Gestalt en grupo". Feliz mes!


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